This was a challenging lesson for me to learn, but two years of therapy have helped me tremendously in terms of how I interact with others. Initially, I believed that basic civility was a natural trait among everyone, which was both hopeful and misguided. However, I redirected that energy back into myself, and the people who mattered understood and appreciated my boundaries.
I've definitely embraced saying no to plans - the joy of missing out!! When I was younger, I wanted to do it all and see everything; I think part of finding yourself. I think embracing 'no' comes with being older and wanting to own your time and space more.
In Black Women Writers at Work what is salient is Claudia Tate asking Toni Morrison how does she fit writing into her life & Toni’s response; “I don’t do much. I don’t go out. I don’t entertain. & I get off the phone. Those activities demand an enormous part of what people call time.”
Yes. I have to keep reminding myself about this. I've always been the nice lady who's usually approachable and never asks too much in return. And, yeah, that's tiring.
Encouraging. One of the hardest things for me, especially someone struggling with ADHD, is consistency and focus. I can be consistent with writing for weeks or months, and once I'm derailed, its hard for that train to get back on the track.
Love this! Own your space.
It’s owned 💜💜
Very good take !
Thank you! ☺️
This was a challenging lesson for me to learn, but two years of therapy have helped me tremendously in terms of how I interact with others. Initially, I believed that basic civility was a natural trait among everyone, which was both hopeful and misguided. However, I redirected that energy back into myself, and the people who mattered understood and appreciated my boundaries.
Redirection is so important. I believe we have to put ourselves first and call our energy back.
I've definitely embraced saying no to plans - the joy of missing out!! When I was younger, I wanted to do it all and see everything; I think part of finding yourself. I think embracing 'no' comes with being older and wanting to own your time and space more.
In Black Women Writers at Work what is salient is Claudia Tate asking Toni Morrison how does she fit writing into her life & Toni’s response; “I don’t do much. I don’t go out. I don’t entertain. & I get off the phone. Those activities demand an enormous part of what people call time.”
Yes. I have to keep reminding myself about this. I've always been the nice lady who's usually approachable and never asks too much in return. And, yeah, that's tiring.
Encouraging. One of the hardest things for me, especially someone struggling with ADHD, is consistency and focus. I can be consistent with writing for weeks or months, and once I'm derailed, its hard for that train to get back on the track.